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I have a co-worker using my coffee mug at work. I want to make him stop without sounding like I'm being picky. I have tried making the point indirectly that the cup belongs to me but he still uses it.

Our cleaner cleans the cups and puts them on a tray in the kitchen area, he usually arrives in before me too so I can't just nab it before he gets here.

What would be the best way to go about this, as I said, without sounding like I'm being fussy.

Edit :-

I got to work 30 minutes early and..

I got my cup back!!

Today was a good daycup

Jim G.
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    I've been in places where people have "claimed" cups as their cups in a communal area. They do not own it, they simply like the cup and become possessive of it. I'd venture to guess your coworker assumes this to be the case also. – pi31415 Nov 18 '14 at 11:26
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    "I have tried making the point indirectly" <--- I found your problem. – Casey Nov 19 '14 at 17:29
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    You should state what country/culture you are in. –  Nov 19 '14 at 22:42
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  • Is the cup property of company or your personal purchase? 2. If it is owned by company, are you sure that your colleague does not think abosolutly like you - i.e. you are using his cup?
  • – i486 Nov 20 '14 at 08:27
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    Some people don't get social hints. Being indirect sometimes just doesn't work. You have to tell him right away, he probably thinks it's not a big deal. – Fabinout Nov 20 '14 at 14:20
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    This question is a little akin to asking how not to sound picky while being picky. I would imagine that many people simply don't care who is using which cup, and your colleague might fall into this category. Your colleague should be mature enough to understand that his attitude is not the only one (and that you absolutely have a right to use your own cup exclusively). Trying to window-dress your pickyness might just make you appear picky and passive-aggressive. If you're picky, be picky, it's not the worst quality; embrace it and people will respond positively to it, I know I would! – quant Nov 21 '14 at 01:00
  • Did you buy the cup? If you did, then why were you leaving it in the common area? – Masked Man Feb 11 '15 at 16:21
  • This sort of question brings up the basic issue that Work is not your Home. The rules and expectations are entirely different. No one seemed to address that in the Answers, from what I can see. I once lived in a place that was my work, so things got a little sticky, especially with other people who sometimes bluntly pointed out the issue, and sometimes went against it. fun. –  Sep 15 '16 at 11:58
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