This is a BIG QUESTION with a hundred missing details. If you're just looking for a resource to compare lenses, the best two suggestions I'd have are 1) go to the manufacturer and look at their lens roadmap to see what fits your particular needs, or 2) narrow down your list from the entire universe of lenses that are better than a kit lens to a specific few lenses or some specific features and diving into the forums.
While you may think you've narrowed the scope of the question, "extra reach, better, faster, and better video quality" still leaves a tremendous number of lenses to be contemplated. I can list a dozen lenses that fit all of those needs but may not fit your camera, your budget, or your specific use case.
You may want to say something like: "I've got the __ (brand, aperture, focal length) lens and I'd like something with a longer zoom. My budget is $__. Ideally, I'd love a faster lens too, but zoom is more important to me. I'm mostly interested in __ (portraiture/family photos/sports/nature). Any recommendations?"
Given those details, we could give you 2-3 lenses to consider, in which case you could go and see what the head to head comparisons say.