Refugee from reddit. Ex mod there of v. large sub.

This gives me hope:

This site is all about getting answers. It's not a discussion forum. There's no chit-chat.

this too:

We respect a laser-like focus on one topic.

For the avoidance of doubt, I am male. Use of gender-neutral language is a denigration of that, and knowing usage of such language is inappropriate and likely to offend or alienate.