I think you have it exactly backwards. I think the song is about a person who is on the receiving of homophobia. The song seems to be about a homosexual/bisexual male who is upset that he is not accepted because of it, particularly by the Christian church (The Catholic church has delcared homosexuality a mortal sin; I'm not sure what other Christian denominations have to say about it off the top of my head). Here's a line by line analysis of the song, if you're interested:
I'm supposed to be the one who brings us all together
Weak or strong, not just a song
We sing along when things go wrong
You will need me when you fall
And I will need you when I'm wrong
Tears lead me on
They let me lead you so far
Weak or strong, I'll hold your arm
Here, the singer acknowledges the fact that he is a musician, and thus people will turn to his music when they are feeling upset. I'm not sure what the last half means.
The lines "f*** playing for Jesus" and "I'll burn a hole through your cross" suggest a dissatisfaction with religion. The lines
My soul's already lost
And it's funny 'cause they're saying 'He's hot'
But they don't see the fucking tears that I've cried
And they don't hear me when I scream when I die
I wanna live good, I wanna live right
My insecurities are eatin' me alive
suggest that the singer is homosexual. The last two lines suggest that the singer is upset that he is homosexual, because parents/churches/society tend to say that being homosexual or bisexual is "wrong", and being heterosexual is "right", and feels that he is somehow living "wrong".
I need a friend, someone close to my heart
That'll help me through my struggles
You can help me through my times
I believe here and here:
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Don't think I'm broken, 'cause I'm not
Got milk? Got problems?
Problems is all that I got
You're looking down on a barrel of a bent pole
Take my hand, I promise that I'll go slow
When you looked too close you end up with a broke soul
'Cause in the end it's certain where all the souls go
Maybe you can show me how to live right
And come see how it all ends wrong
The singer is looking for a boyfriend
These lines (not in sequence)
Already found the devil, he's my best friend
The bible keeps telling me 'Don't go!'
'Cause in the end it's certain where all the souls go
further the theory that the singer is dissatisfied with religion. Homosexuality is often considered to be a sin, and is therefore "the work of the devil". The singer believes that homosexuality is not a sin (and I personally agree), and therefore he will not go to hell for it. The last line here even suggests that the singer believes everyone goes to heaven, hell, or no-where, but they all go to the same place
I want a pill for every bad thought
For every chick I f***ed
For every time I lost
The singer seems to be contemplating suicide (I'm guessing the pills refer to sedatives/sleeping pills, a common suicide method"), and feels that he has "lost" and become untrue to himself by engaging in sexual intercourse with females.
On a side note: Just because someone sings something doesn't mean that they necessarily mean it or believe in the message. For an extreme example of this, check out Eric Bogle's "Bloody Rotten Audience"
A second note: I'm not sure if you know this, but the word "homosexual" is not in itself offensive. If that's what you're worried about, worry no longer. Disclaimer on this note: I am not homosexual and have a known hatred of euphemisms