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How to redirect a real-life help vampire to an alternate source of food... um... assistance?
I've recently had some troubles with a help-vampire in the office. She's about my age (late twenties), from India and she doesn't speak Dutch. She works in the same office as me, but not on the same project/team. She was hired on a recommendation by…
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Asking a coworker to discontinue his chivalrous acts towards me?
I've made a friend, Bob, in my workplace who is too much of a gentleman for my comfort level.
Initially, we became fast friends due to our shared interests and political beliefs. We often message outside of work and get lunch together every few…
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How do I tell a potential partner about my autism?
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I recently met a woman on a dating app and we hit it off. Last night we went on our first date, which went very well and we are planning to go out again. I am interested in potentially having a serious relationship with her if the next…
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How can I deal diplomatically with a feminist neighbor who continuously delivers political speeches in private?
This question is unlikely to have a very strong cultural context so I welcome answers from members all over the world.
I met this person (code name Jane D) when I was studying sociology at Masters level 12 years ago. She was much older and a…
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Should I have my child apologize to someone after he called them fat?
I was accompanying my 4-year-old son into the bathroom where there happened to be a very large individual. At the sight of him, my son proceeded to say (very loudly), "Daddy, that man is really fat!" as the man was closing the door of the stall.…
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Is it rude to ask someone where they are from originally?
Introduction
This question is different from this excellent one, since it is not about tourists. The differences will become clear later on, I hope.
I will, as usual, use fake names (Alice and Eve this time) and also name places (L. A. and New…
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How to maintain healthy conversation with a partner long term
So my partner and I have dating for a couple years, and it's definitely been a relationship of learning. Our communication feels pretty healthy. However, now as we're finishing college/university, we have more time together and our conversations…
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How can I convince my partner to accept my best friend instead of wanting to break up?
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My partner (27F) and I (26M) have been together for about a year. We live together. Throughout our relationship, my partner has been jealous of my friendship with my best friend (25F) of 4 years. This has been manifested by her sending me…
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How to politely refuse telling your parents where you work?
While I don’t have a bad relationship with my parent who tries to find out, you could say that our relation is rather cold. I haven’t lived with my parents for about six years.
Since I’ve already had bad experiences (my parent calling my boss at…
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How to quickly end a date?
I use a dating app to go on dates with people I have never seen in person. Usually we spend 1-2 hours to go for some coffee etc.
I've had dates turn up that e.g. don't look like their picture/description, and spend the 1-2 hours having coffee and…
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How to talk about my comfortable lifestyle without sounding like I'm bragging?
Most of my friends have gone down the marriage with 2.4 kids route. Great for them but it does eat most of their time/money.
Not having done that, I can afford a decent house, to have a couple of holidays each year, and to spend money on…
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How to stop classmate from bullying me
I am Austrian, 17 years old. After that year, I have one last year left in my school.
I have one classmate who never liked me very much. Since this year’s christmas our relationship got even worse.
He won't stop insulting me or shouting at me. When…
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How to determine if someone is busy or just doesn't want to spend time with me?
A friend of mine, Tim, is often busy. I've been trying to make plans with him to go out for drinks, but he seems to be busy every time I make this offer. This happens fairly often so I have a slight suspicion that perhaps he's using this as a way of…
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How to convince my parents I'm happy with my social life?
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I'm 19 years old and I live with my mother. I completed an apprenticeship in software engineering earlier this year. I'm now working full time at the company where I finished my apprenticeship to save money for the university.
Now, to the…
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Uncomfortable With Neighbor Mowing Our Lawn
A couple of days ago we looked out our window and saw that our next-door neighbor was mowing our lawn. We have noticed her lack of interpersonal boundaries on several occasions since we moved in a couple of years ago, but it hasn't outweighed the…
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