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How to politely handle support requests which lack some basic understanding?
So as a free software developer, I'm fond that there are users of my projects.
However, from time to time, it happens that some people who are definitely not in the target audience for a piece of software attempt to use it and expect support.
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How can I try to get my coworkers to stop their jokes on LGBTQ+ people
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I have been in this company for 5 months now and I'm sharing an office with four men (35 to 55 y.o.). They all are white, heterosexual cis men. For the record I'm a white, 22 y.o., heterosexual cis woman1.
There's been a viral video in…
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How can I ask my girlfriend to split gas money for a long trip?
A situation came up with my girlfriend where I drove her to an event that she needed to go to that was a two hour drive away (so a four hour round trip). After we got back, I charged her for half of the gas that it took to make the trip and she…
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How to tell a friend I won't pay them for a favor they did for me?
I recently received, out of the blue, a text message from a friend which very much surprised me.
In the message, my friend mentions that I borrowed her Netflix account for about a month (she said she calculated this from going back and looking at…
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Politely telling an incompetent software project volunteer they are too inexperienced
I am currently the project lead of an online volunteer run software project. I originally created this and work on it my in free time. There are also a few other people who took interest in this project and volunteered to help. I have never worked…
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How do I deal with a mother who won't take "no" for an answer?
My mother is quite single-minded in getting what she wants. Unfortunately, she also has only a single tactic: trying to convince me every single time we talk.
Most of these things are products or activities that my wife and I have no interest in. …
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How do I tell my girlfriend she's been buying me books by the wrong author for the last nine months?
Help! For the last nine months my girlfriend has been buying me books by the wrong author, fully believing that she's treating me to work by my favourite writer (who incidentally she believes is a pervert!).
Some context: on our first date I told my…
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How can I politely tell someone I won't do my job for free?
I am a relatively open individual who is shy (for lack of a better word) around new people.
One of my coworkers has a business and is asking for my help as a financial analyst outside of work, and while I'm more than happy to help my fear is that my…
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Responding to my mom's remarks about my love life when she refuses to accept/acknowledge it
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I'm the only child in a religious, conservative family. We do not see eye to eye on many current events, as they often only watch a single (biased) news source, and stand their ground on somewhat narrow/unfounded/unexposed views of the…
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How do I respond to racist remarks from a coworker?
Recently, I've had a couple short conversations with a coworker that have taken a racist turn, and I'm not really sure how to respond. We don't work directly together, but often see each other in passing and say "hello".
For example, today he asked…
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What pronoun to use when talking about a transgender person's past?
I have an old friend who recently came out as transgender. We have a very healthy relationship in general, but I often find myself wondering if I should mention his past (before he came out) and, if I do bring it up, if I should refer to him by…
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When and how do I tell the person I've been "Netflix and chilling" with that I love her?
We have been seeing each other for almost 3 months, she is 24, I'm 26 years old. We did not 'date' in the regular way, but she comes over to my place regularly (weekly), where we usually 'netflix and chill'.
I am really not a good talker when it's…
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How to behave at a work organized drinking event as a non drinker?
I work in a medium sized company (~150 people) and every year they have this drink off event in conjunction with one of the local fairs. This means they basicly all get together and drink wine and do ... I don't know actually, this week is the first…
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Witnessed a woman being abused (groped) in a nightclub
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Last Thursday I (21 year old male) was in my student union as there was a Drum and Bass Event happening. I went out with a fairly large group, about 8 lads including me and 2 girls. We were all having a great time. I was talking to…
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Is it rude to drive at the speed limit on dangerous roads when another driver wants to go faster?
Each day, I drive through a heavily wooded area in a nature reservation (in the United States). The roads have many twists, turns and hills, and the speed limit is 25 miles per hour. Cars going much faster are likely to crash. There are few, if any,…
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