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How do I gently reject an indecent proposal?
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People:
Bob, John and Alice are old acquaintances of mine. They are a little older than me, mid-to-late twenties. We are not close friends, but we get along together well and see each other regularly.
Problem:
I needed to deliver…
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How to invite terminal ill / very sick friends to a party?
My grandparents will be celebrating 65 years of marriage in a few months.
The anniversary is celebrated with a big party for the extended family and my grandparents' friends.
Many of my grandparents' friends are old people (85+) with bad health…
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How do I politely explain to my neighbour that I don't feel comfortable being alone with her in her house while my kids play?
We recently moved into a new neighborhood, as did our neighbor, Jane. I have two young girls (4 and 5), and Jane has a boy and girl (7 I think?). My kids love to play with them, and her kids seem to enjoy it just as much (they knock on our door…
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How to enforce a "No Shoes" policy in my apartment?
I like to keep my apartment floor clean, as I enjoy walking around with bare feet after a shower without having to worry about them becoming dirty. As such, I don't like shoes beyond the doorway in my apartment.
When I have friends over they'll…
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How do I ask for an espresso if there's a good chance they don't know how to make it?
I like coffee and I live in Russia which is not generally a coffee drinking country.
More often than not, when you ask for an espresso in Russia, you get 100 to 150 ml of liquid in your cup.
The cafes as a rule have the good equipment: espresso…
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How to tell girlfriend that I don't like hypothetical and silly questions?
My girlfriend has a habit of thinking of scenarios that will never happen and then asking me a question about them usually about our relationship and then getting upset if I don't answer correctly.
One such example is:
We were watching an episode…
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How to miss my own stag/bachelor party?
Although I am not to marry soon, I will do so one day (reasons irrelevant for the question). The tradition among my friends is to organise stag/bachelor parties for soon-to-be married grooms. However, personally I do not agree with the dominant…
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Is it rude to ask tourists where they are from?
“So… Where are you from?”
It's normal small talk for us, most Indians; and only general whereabouts is expected.
In my tours in India, I've met some foreigners along the way, usually western. I welcome them, offer assistance, and often have small…
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How to discuss girlfriend's weight loss plans?
My girlfriend is in the process of losing weight, and the topic comes up between us occasionally (at her instigation), usually with a context of "I'm going to be so much hotter in a few months".
She's very much doing it for herself, and I don't…
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How can I ask if something's free, without looking stingy?
Some waiters offer something (e.g. distilled water; more amuse-bouches, hors d'œuvre or bread) without disclosing if it's free. How can I clarify tactfully?
I always decline, as I don't know how to ask without being judged. But this flopped…
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How do I politely decline a request for a contract marriage?
I am a recent graduate from a school in the United States that has a large number of international students. During my time there, I became friends with someone who I will refer to as "Suzy." Suzy and I became close by spending time playing a…
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How to help significant other lose gracefully in games?
My significant other (SO) and I like to play card and boardgames from time to time. The problem is she always throws a tantrum when losing (crying, being mad).
When she gets the slightest bit behind in any game, she gets apathetic and says the game…
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How do I stress that having children is not an option when picking a date?
I have had some issues that have convinced me that I will never try and have/raise kids (either my own or those of someone else).
This, however, leads to some serious problems when dating/having a relationship with people. I always make it a case…
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How do I stop making people jump at home and at work?
I make a lot of people jump when I enter the room or try to get their attention. I am not sure what exactly I am doing wrong, but I would like to stop it so I am looking for suggestions. I have had a long running joke with my wife and other friends…
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How can I tactfully tell my ex-superior that I don't owe him anything?
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Last summer, I had a temporary job which lasted 3 months (not more, not less) as a research engineer.
It was decided that if my work gave promising results, my superior would write an article about it (To be published in research papers).…
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