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How do I address my mother's concerns about my boyfriend's smoking?
My boyfriend smokes tobacco. (Once in a while, he might roll a joint. It helps him relax. I don't mind it because it's not on a daily basis).
Both my mother and his parents know about it. I actually worry more about the effects of tobacco.…
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How to help my girlfriend get her confidence back?
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now, and while I consider her to be an amazing person, she has an extremely low opinion of herself, calling herself "worthless" or the likes.
I think it's important here to give a little…
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How to politely answer someone who resists your request to escalate against him/her?
Difficulty: How do I deal with someone who won't escalate my complaint?
Assumptions
I'm the customer, and can't take business elsewhere; the other party (let's call them REP for Representative) works for the government or corporate behemoth (e.g.…
user2423
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Different budgets within roommate group
I'm a third-year student/ junior at a US university, and I'm about to move into an apartment with three friends of mine. The main reason I wanted to move was to save money, and I thought this was the primary reason for my friends too.
However, we've…
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How to communicate to my aunt that she made an honest mistake when buying food for a family meal?
TL;DR
My aunt bought some houmous thinking it was vegan when it wasn't. How do I tell her she made a mistake without upsetting her?
Background
The other day, I was at a family dinner. My aunt didn't mind making it a vegan meal.
She bought houmous…
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Reclaiming my desk fan when the office I lent it to is also really hot
I work in a mid sized company. Due to company policy, we're usually not allowed to have personal electronics at work (all electronics in the offices must be tested every year, it's a licensing / auditing requirement).
This time of year, it is…
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Household chores in long distance relationship
Situation
My long-term partner and I (mid-thirties) have apartments in different cities due to work reasons, we see each other on the weekends, always taking turns whose apartment we are staying in. While we generally enjoy each others company,…
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How to politely decline an opportunity to be involved in a pyramid scheme?
I have a friend who is involved in a Multi-Level Marketing scheme (which sounds a lot like a pyramid scheme). She often invites me to events where she sells things. When we meet outside these nights, she keeps saying I should become a sales person,…
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How to permanently leave a group activity without insulting a friend
Currently I am in a group activity (pen&paper online) we started 2 years ago and which is held weekly. I consider everyone of this group as my friend.
But I have had arguments with the leader of this group (game master).
These issues seem illogical…
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How can I politely find out the gender of a potential roommate via email?
I was looking for a shared room on Craigslist and I found one I'm interested in.
On the post, the writer didn't specify if he/she is male or female.
I'm female, and personally I would only feel comfortable sharing a room with someone who is also…
Marisol Y.
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How to convince the other party that I'm not going to do "the right thing" as the alternative matters more to me
I went on a vacation to a coffee plantation recently. After enjoying my stay there, on the last day, some of the kids of the coffee plantation workers played football (soccer) with my dad and my sister.
The ball they played with belonged to me and I…
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How to avoid a friend's birthday party?
When I was in middle school, I had a friend I was very fond of. The two of us (and a handful more people) formed a very close group with strong bonds. Most of all, what united us was probably our common aversion to things such as loud music and…
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How to properly reject an intimate suggestion?
This question comes from a situation that was quite a while ago. At the time I was 16, while I'm 22 now. I'm a guy and was at my girlfriend’s house while we were cuddling. She suggested that I touched her boobs while we were cuddling.
I wasn't…
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How to tell my usual plumber their service isn’t needed any more?
So my regular plumber who has serviced my boiler for several years has become quite unreliable lately (hard to get hold of and book) and I’ve booked someone else to do the annual service this year.
My regular plumber text today asking when they can…
user2356
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Apologizing to an old roommate
This happened two decades ago where one of my roommates was friendly to me. But, I was rash, rude and had a condescending attitude and never acknowledged her friendly gestures. She helped me when I was ill but I was too ashamed of myself to thank…
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