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How to deal with my boyfriend’s mother without affecting my relationship with him?
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now and even if everything is perfect with him and I couldn’t be happier, it is not the same with his family and especially with his mother, who does things that are unacceptable to me.
I will…
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How to address awful smells from the flat above
Apologies for the large amount of run-up; the context feels very relevant:
My wife and I live in a 1930s block of flats in London. We are on the ground floor, of a staircase of 8 flats, so we're at least slightly familiar with (almost) everyone in…
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How do I tell my stepson and his wife that I don't want to babysit their son overnight right now, after losing my mother, without coming off badly?
I have a 15 month old step grandson who is adorable. He and his parents (my stepson) live about an hour away so it's not too far to do some babysitting. We have watched him for weekends, and of course I'm the person who does most of the babysitting,…
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How to ask someone to not leave their pee on the floor when they use my bathroom?
I have a male nurse who comes to my house every so often to give me medication and observe me all day for any reactions. When he is here, he leaves pee puddles on the floor in front of the toilet (this is obviously urine - it is yellow). Due to my…
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How to ask my office to remove the pride decorations without appearing anti-LGBTQ?
First, for clarification, I am not anti-LGBTQ.
My office has taken part in the Pride Month, which is celebrated throughout the UK in June every year. The month celebrations end in a large Pride march in London (this year, it was on the 6th of…
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How to tell your grandparent to not come to fetch you with their car?
I often come to visit my grandparents during the weekend and they will always come to fetch me at the train station in their car.
However, my grandpa (who is the one driving) is old and his vision has deteriorated a lot lately. He can still drive…
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How can I tell people that my girlfriend and I don't want children of our own?
Every time there's a baby involved in any sort of conversation (new parent, talking about kids, etc.), if I'm involved the question inevitably turns to me and my girlfriend, and when we plan to have children. We're not married yet and have talked…
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How to explain to coworkers that being vegan does not mean I know everything about it?
The other day, I was in a company meal with ~20 coworkers and someone offered me wine before adding: "At least you know this is vegan." (because I'm vegan). I don't like alcohol so I politely refused before adding with a smile: "In fact, not all…
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How can I invite my daughter's friends over without being odd?
My daughter is turning 4 years old in August. She has been going to preschool since September. Her class is pretty small, with only 6 kids. She's good friends with most of them. She'll be joining them again in the next school year.
The school year…
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How to tell boss about pregnancy?
I am about 22 weeks pregnant and it's getting to the point where it's hard to hide! I haven't told my boss or any coworkers yet.
I have a doctors note saying the due date etc.
I'm a bit of a wimp and my boss is a man so I hate these kinds of…
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How to politely tell a friend that I want to hang out with her, but not invite others?
I have a crush on my college friend and want to take her out to cinemas or other places. When I ask her out, she always asks me if her female friend could go along with her. I know it's not a date just hang out together. But, I really only want the…
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How can I try to have my mom help me understand why she won't accept a sincere apology?
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About 8 years ago, we started having some serious trouble with a couple of neighbors (which slowly escalated to call-the-cops and get-a-lawyer kind of trouble). There was some property damage at the time too, but there is absolutely no…
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How can I politely say to my coworker that he should not comment on what I am eating
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Every day, we are eating at a table of 10 people and there is a man that I like but who is not my friend, just a coworker that I only see during breaks who always comments on the food choices of other people.
Examples of what he can…
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When someone states a view I don't agree with, and asks for confirmation, how to avoid giving it without triggering a debate?
There are many people who, after stating their political, religious or ideological view, or an opinion in a debated or controversial topic, explicitly ask for confirmation.
For example, "Am I right?", "Isn't it so?"
Assuming it's not done in bad…
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Do we need good fences to make good neighbors?
My suburban neighborhood has about 80% dog ownership, but most dog owners don't have fences. I don't either.
My across-the-street neighbor "Abby" and I have been becoming friends. It started over a previous puppy that didn't work out. We talk…
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